You may laugh at this, but I write erotica to de-stress. A storyline is attached, but it is sex in its purest form, uncomplicated voyeuristic sex. I see my characters in excruciating detail find release. Writers have to see it in our head to get the words on paper.
When I write straight paranormal or erotica, the sex is not always anchored to a romance. It may be the nature of the character, a curse or a blessing, depending on their world view. I am a romantic at heart, so eventually it will lead to love, and hopefully romance. The two are not naturally intertwined. A character may love someone and sex is part of the relationship, but if it is one sided it is not a romance. Pleasure can be noncommittal, momentary and necessary for the majority; whereas, romance is a committed relationship. Friendship is a committed relationship. Sexual pleasure is the core of erotica. Some may believe that it must be kinky, but that is a matter of taste.
When I write in the romantic suspense genre I follow a parallel rule to life. The consummation of a romance to sexual intimacy leads to a lot more sex. In life, when you become intimate, do you wait months to see each other again? If you enjoyed the experience and want that person, the sex is frequent and lustful. For that very reason you will never see only one sex scene in my books. We are primitive in new relationships, loosing ourselves for hours and sometimes days in our lover’s pleasure. Or so my world view insists.
If you don’t agree, then I challenge you to ask someone who is in a brand new sexual relationship. How often do they see each other now that they have cleared the hurtle of sexual intimacy? Unless they are long distance lovers, they probably see each other several times a week and sex is integral to planning their time together. Why do you think there’s always a hidden parlor off the ballroom when you read historical romance? Sex allows a male and females to become one.
What is your world view on sex?
Rhianna Samuels
Rhiannasamuels.com
